Your Boyfriend Isn't Commitment Ready! How Long Are You Really Willing to Wait?

He tells you that although he's crazy in love with you he just can't take that next step. You understand. How could you not since you love him so much, right? Months pass and you bring up the idea of a more serious relationship again. Still he claims he's not commitment ready and you begin to wonder what exactly he means by that. This all sounds eerily familiar, doesn't it? It's the script of your life at the moment. As all of your friends focus on planning their weddings or moving forward in their marriage, you're still stuck being a girlfriend. Are you really willing to wait forever for him to commit to you?

When your guy tells you he's not ready for a commitment, you want to believe there's a valid reason behind it. There are a few standard reasons why men fear serious relationships. Things like being fearful of divorce, worrying about finances and not feeling certain about having children are all typical. However, if a couple has been together for some time and they are living essentially as though they are committed partners, the actual commitment should be just a formality. That's why you need to really take stock of your relationship.

What many women don't want to face when their boyfriend won't commit is that his reluctance may be related to his feelings. A good majority of men who say they aren't commitment ready just aren't sure they've found the ideal woman for them. It's tough to hear that. You likely feel as though you two are well suited, maybe even soul mates. To know that he has serious reservations about marrying you because he's unsure, stings and it's very confusing.

You have to determine whether or not you're willing to wait until he comes to a decision regarding marrying you. It's vitally important that you realize that you also have a say in this. If you want very much to be in a committed, stable, mutually satisfying relationship, you need to make a tough decision. Your happiness and fulfillment has to come first so if you believe you're in a relationship that may never give you what you need, consider what your next step needs to be. Even though you love him dearly, if he can't ever give you what you want, you may need to reconsider whether he really is the perfect guy for you.