Relationship Needs - Tips For Meeting Those Needs

How do you spice up a drab and boring relationship? The first thing I can tell you is the two of you need to have a serious talk. Set up a time when you will both be home and have no other obligations. Give each other undivided attention with no distractions so you can work this out. If you have kids, send them over to grandma and grandpa's house for the night.

Have paper and pen handy, start out by listing what is good about your relationship and what is bad or needs work. Make this list as complete as possible. Beside each item on the list under the heading 'needs work', come up with ways to make each one better or go away if necessary. Be creative with your ideas, if you both end up laughing during this session so much the better.

Vow to make a commitment to each other that you will both strive to make things better. Start working together on your relationship needs and soon you will be happier than you have been in a long time.

Start doing little things for each other. When was the last time you bought him a card for no reason? Or you told her she was the best thing that has ever happened to you? Were you really just going to let this relationship die without fighting for it? That would have been such a shame. If the love is still there, there is hope for the two of you to salvage your relationship.

Make yourselves a date night and stick to it every week. Pick a favorite place to go or choose a different place each time, it doesn't matter as long as you talk and keep the relationship fresh and exciting. A nice dinner and a movie or maybe a show at a dinner theater. Heck, even a local hockey game or high school football game would be fun. Any way to just spend some quality time together.

In addition to these suggestions, it wouldn't hurt to go see someone knowledgeable in helping couples stay together or putting their relationship back together if it has crumbled. I believe there is always hope when love is involved. If there are issues that the two of you cannot work out this is the best option to make things better. A good counselor will work with you to come up with a compromise that is acceptable for both of you.