Are you on the verge of a breakdown because you want to set a wedding date, but your man just won't make the commitment? Are you eager to get a move on and get this marriage into gear, but he's in no such hurry? Does he seem happy with you and you don't understand his reticence? Men don't have that same fairy tale connection to the notion of marriage. If anything, while women see themselves going off to live in a castle with their Prince Charming, men fear being dragged into the dungeon for all eternity.
Inspect Your Present Relationship
Guys want to basically have a life that's fun and easy. They don't want a confrontation every week. They don't want to fight over trivialities. They don't want to have to change in order to be the perfect man of your dreams.
Where is the fun factor? Has it been replaced with daily chores or a mundane routine? Do you have fights over the way you want things done versus how he sees it? And are you already trying to change the man you supposedly love so much that you want to marry him?
If you love him, let him be.
Tend to Your Own Life
In virtually ever relationship the woman will set aside the various things that used to keep her busy in order to have more time to spend with her man. While it's normal that certain activities fall to the side, giving up everything that made you who you are is not a good idea.
In the long run this can lead you to resent him. If you've taken up dancing with the hopes of getting into a dance troupe and you let it go, you'll one day blame him for having ruined your dreams.
The effect on the present is just as bad. He's liable to think that you can't do anything on your own and can come to feel suffocated by your constant presence and neediness. Give him a good and healthy chance to miss you all while giving him a well needed opportunity to breathe. Just because you're in love doesn't mean you have to spend every waking moment together.
Talk
Sounds simple enough, yet many women forget that talking within a couple needs to be a two way affair. Don't do all the talking and neglect listening... and by listening I mean truly taking in what he's telling you. This conversation needs to have you both understanding where the other is coming from. Don't simply shrug off his concerns or fears. Take them into consideration and perhaps even make the necessary changes in order to keep him happy.
When a man sees just how bright his future will be in the presence of that special woman, he's more likely to want a commitment. Be the same girl he fell in love with and don't let the doldrums of couplehood wear you guys down.
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